Much needed correction
A few years ago, I was corrected by three women at a Kat Ker event after I mentioned my husband’s disinterest in most things spiritual. I wasn’t bashing my husband, but they noted I was creating the wrong atmosphere by decreeing his shortcomings as the priest of the home. I was immediately convicted by Holy Spirit and repented for making inappropriate declarations. I quickly shifted my approach for him in prayer and began to speak over him the things that God saw in him through the finished work of Christ. I began to notice positive changes in the marriage a few months into making these decrees. Since receiving that wise advice from those three wonderful women of God, I have watched Jesus perform an amazing transformation in my husband that has also benefited me on many levels. During this stretch of time, I have also grown to respect my husband in ways I hadn’t fully appreciated; and we have really grown in our friendship and compatibility.
Decrees should lead us to the finished work
God sees us through the veil of our destiny and His decrees over us always lead to the finished work within us. This makes sense as He sees us as one with Jesus and as the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus; so yes, God would be speaking into the atmosphere around us from a position of our perfection through His Son. I have continued to speak God’s life, God’s purpose, and God’s destiny over my husband and our marriage—calling those things that are not as though they were—and it has made a huge impact on our marriage and on our growth as a couple. So if I were to give advice on how to pray for spiritual advancement in one’s marriage or on any important issue that may be hindering God’s best for a godly union, I would say that making decrees and declarations that speak to destiny is the best strategy you can exercise to take your marriage to the next level.